SOCIETAL norms might be constantly evolving but questions around appropriate funeral attire have remained prominent.
During these modern times, scores of people across the globe are rethinking traditional dress codes as many are looking to personalise funeral or memorial services.
This has resulted in a more widespread expression of individuality, even in sombre settings.
With this in mind, the team at Affordable Urns have shared their expertise on the matter.
Below, they provide their take on the shifting standards of funeral attire and how to balance personal expression with the solemnity and respect that these occasions demand.
“As funeral traditions change, so do expectations about what’s appropriate to wear,” they said.
Respecting the wishes of the deceased and their loved ones
The main consideration should always be honouring the wishes of the deceased and their family.
“If specific guidelines for attire are given, it’s important to follow them,” they suggested. They added that when no clear direction is provided, conservative dress is generally a safe and respectful choice.
Cultural and religious considerations
As funeral customs differ across cultures and religions, funeral guests should be aware of these variations.
The experts said that in accordance with some traditions, mourners are expected to wear black, while in others white or bright colours are more appropriate as symbols of remembrance.
Balancing personal expression with solemnity
The rise of personalised “celebration of life” services has resulted in funeral attire becoming more flexible.
“However, a balance should still be struck between expressing individuality and maintaining the respect the occasion deserves,” the experts said.
“Attendees should dress in a way that honours the solemnity of the event.”
Considering the venue and setting
The team stressed that the setting of the funeral can influence what’s considered appropriate attire.
“A service in a place of worship may require more formal clothing, while a memorial at a park or beach may allow for a more relaxed dress code.”
Standards and generational differences
Attitudes toward funeral attire are also changing, with the younger generations often favouring more casual, personalised styles. In contrast, older individuals may prefer traditional or formal clothing.
“Being mindful of these differences and finding a respectful balance is key.”
Meanwhile, a spokesperson added that they have noticed a shift toward more personalised funeral attire over the years which is reflective of the changes in society.
“However, the main focus at funerals should still be to honour the deceased and support the family.
“In our experience, families value respect and appropriateness in what people wear, regardless of the type of service.”
The spokesperson added that whether it’s a formal funeral or a more casual memorial, it’s important to follow the deceased’s loved ones’ wishes as well as to consider the cultural context and venue.
“Though dress codes have become more flexible, it’s still necessary to dress with modesty and respect, so the attention remains on supporting the grieving family rather than what people are wearing.”